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Tanya Penna

registered clinical counsellor & social worker



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Individual Counselling
Couples Counselling
New Parents//Parenting
Birth Doula

ARE YOU FEELING OVERWHELMED, STUCK, AND A SENSE OF HOPELESSNESS?

DO YOU FEEL THAT YOU HAVE JUST BEEN DRIFTING THROUGH LIFE AND WONDER IF YOU ARE LIVING OUT SOMEBODY ELSE'S EXPECTATIONS RATHER THAN YOUR OWN DESIRE?

ARE YOU GOING THROUGH A MAJOR LIFE TRANSITION AND NEED SUPPORT TO MAKE SENSE OF THE CHANGE IN ORDER TO MOVE INTO YOUR NEW ROLE?

PERHAPS OLD NARRATIVES ARE HOLDING YOU BACK & YOU WANT TO MOVE FORWARD LIVING THE BEST VERSION OF YOUR SELF?


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Do you fear that you are falling behind, and life is passing you by? Are you worried that you are not moving forward and that you are wasting years of your life? Are you friends from high school graduating from university and you are still trying to figure out what to do with your life? Maybe all of your friends are starting to settle down and have kids and no prospect of a decent partner is in sight for you. Or maybe you are middle-aged or older and feel at a loss about how to spend the latter portion of your life.
Regardless of what life stage you are at, if you are wondering how to live more in alignment with your values and beliefs, please know you are not alone in your existential questioning! Most people find themselves at a pivotal crossroad at some point in their lives, which can feel overwhelming and daunting. It can be challenging to know how to move forward in life without a clearly defined path leading us onward. In our work together I can help you identify what is important to you, and together we will co-develop an authentic plan forward that is in alignment with your identity and values.

"Not Good Enough" & Self-Doubt
Do you struggle with a sense of not being good enough? Self-doubt may be having you question your ability and capacity to move forward in an area of your life. Or maybe it is attacking your sense of self-worth on a daily basis, relentlessly making you doubt yourself. If you struggle with this, you likely are the person that doesn't think you are smart enough, kind enough, good-looking enough, skinny enough, strong enough, a good enough parent, lover, friend....you get where I'm going with this! Let's face it, this feeling of not being good enough sucks. I get this so well! But there is hope and a way out of this limiting belief. If you feel that you pretty much suck at everything (or most things) then it can be immensely valuable and game changing to spend some time exploring what these thoughts are a response to, and to work towards developing a more positive sense of identity. Our work together will help you build awareness of when self-doubt shows up, and strategies to manage how to resist its influence in your life. Experiencing relief from self-doubt will also make space for you to identify and appreciate all of the positive and wonderful aspects of who you are! Don't roll your eyes or sigh (okay you can, I would too), BUT it's true!

Relationship Anxiety
Relationship anxiety can be described as a excessive worry about the state of your intimate relationship. If you are in an intimate relationship and have noticed unwanted emotions and behaviours surfacing then likely you have a suspicion of what I'm talking about. Maybe you find yourself becoming overly jealous, habitually overthinking and coming up with all the ways in which the relationship can go wrong, or you are having a difficult time trusting your significant other (SO). A bad case of worry about your relationship can involve the constant questioning about whether you are good enough for your SO, are they really the one for you, will this last or am I wasting my time? Do they love me as much as I love them? How would I know if they are cheating on me?

To love and care for another brings a sense of vulnerability and we all respond to this vulnerability in different ways. If you are tired of worry's intrusion into your relationship, and are concerned that it is getting in the way of your ability to be the SO you desire to be, then counselling may be of benefit to you. Our work together will involve identifying and coming to understand what your anxiety is a response to, develop strategies and tools to manage it, and to identify ways to move forward in your relationship in a way that meets your needs and fosters trust and intimacy between you and your SO.


Despair (Depression)
If you have reached a point in your life where you feel like a big, dark cloud is hanging over your head, weighing you down, and robbing you of the enthusiasm for life you previously held, then you likely know despair. You may have a sense that you have completely lost all hope right now and a way out of this painful state seems impossible and insurmountable. This level of despair can feel paralyzing and honestly quite frightening. Unfortunately, when it feels like despair has taken over it can be very difficult to reach out for help. I know things are hard right night, and reaching out feels impossible, but please try and take a stand against the oppressing grip of despair by talking to someone about it today. I'm of the belief that despair is a response to some aspect of your life that isn't working for you, and that when you can trace despair back to its origins in your life, you will find that your feelings of despair make sense and are likely a reasonable response. This exploration can bring immense relief and be a dignifying experience. If you chose to work with me, we will identify together what despair may be a response to and find ways to bring hope back into your life. In time, things will change, you will feel hope, and regain a sense of meaning and purpose in your life.


"The problem is the problem, not the person" -Michael White & David Epston

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